Emotionally Intelligent Couples

How to Ask for What You Really Want or Need

Are you an emotionally intelligent couple? Well, let’s talk about it! We are taught from a young age that we must use our words and that we can’t complain about not getting what we want if we never ask for it, but how do we use our words and use them well? How do we ask for what we want without fear of rejection or judgment?

Communicating what we want or need to our partner can be difficult at times but avoiding that talk can also lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. I know you’re probably thinking, but wait, “I don’t want to ask for what I want or need only to be rejected by my partner. “ Although rejection can hurt, sitting back and hoping your partner can read your mind is only setting them up for failure and causing you resentment because you’re not getting that thing want or need. Looking at all of this, it’s no wonder it can be hard to ask but the bottom line is YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT OR NEED!

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict.

9 Ways to Boost your Emotional Intelligence

Develop Self-Awareness

Practice Mindfulness

Hone your Empathy

Use Active Listening

Practice Adaptability

Build your Social Skills

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Learn about Conflict Resolution

When in Doubt, Practice Self-Reflection

Oh but they can, we just have to give them a voice. When you can talk about your feelings you are able to be more emotionally intelligent and in your partnership that’s a win. It allows you to strengthen your bond, increase your intimacy, stay connected, and build a stronger overall relationship. Three key things to remember when building your emotionally intelligent relationship;

Perceptive emotional awareness: To avoid mistaking infatuation or lust for lasting love

2. Tolerance: To experience emotions that could harm a relationship if left to fester

3. Vigilant active awareness: To tell us of what’s working and what isn’t