We have all heard the saying “Lucky in Love” but what does that truly mean? Does luck really play a factor in a healthy relationship or does a healthier relationship require more than just luck?
The truth is, it’s not luck. It’s partners working hard to make the relationship work. It requires couples to put intentional time and effort, along with trust and commitment to one another to see lasting results.
Luck might be a factor in what brought you and your partner together but it then becomes a process of investing in each other frequently to make a relationship last. It’s about choosing to invest in one another.
The truth is relationships are heathier when partners invest into them. Luck plays a very small role in the big picture of the relationship. A lucky relationship is created, and it’s not a matter of luck! Intentional time and effort are crucial aspects of a healthy relationship because healthy communication can be admittedly difficult at times; intimacy can change throughout the course of the relationship, and life is going to be life.
Love is an action but feeling love boils down to an emotional response. Couples that are “lucky in love” tend to have emotional openness with one another and are unafraid to express their thoughts and feelings.
Moral of the story… Don’t rely on luck to carry your relationship. Put in the hard work and watch it actually pay off. Anything worthwhile is worth working hard for! Make your relationship a top priority and luck won’t be needed!
Find out how to create your own relationship luck in the next section of this newsletter with just a few helpful tips and tricks.
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How to Create Your Own Relationship Luck
1. Have open and honest communication with one another
2. Make intentional time for one another
3. Fight fair: during times of conflict give one another mutual respect and reconcile quickly
4. Don’t rely on one another for everything, no one person can give you 100% of what you want and need.
5. Set realistic expectations for yourself and one another
6. Be willing to be vulnerable and emotionally open with one another
Brene Brown— Thoughts on Love
Brene Brown is a world-renowned author, speaker, professor, and podcast host who’s work focuses on the power of vulnerability and shame within ones self as well as their relationships.
As luck would have it, Brene Brown doesn’t believe in being lucky in love either! She believes that love is not something we give or get, that it is something that we nurture and grow. That connections can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them, and that we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
May the Force be with you,
Angelina Taylor, MSPsy, MAMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
http://www.akconfluence.com/ #907.313.4433 Ext. 106
