Have you ever thought about getting to know your partner better?
The entire principle of building love maps is a simplistic way to get to know the little details about your partner’s life. This will allow you to build a stronger foundation and increase your overall friendship and intimacy.
Dr. Gottman has found through his 40+ years of research in relation to couples that emotionally intelligent couples are deeply familiar with one another’s worlds.
They are interested in knowing one another on a deep personal level. This is why building detailed love maps is so important to relationships.
It comes down to the importance one places on their relationship. Making room in an often cluttered mind for ones relationship and the deeply personal information you share as partners. Remembering major life events, your partners likes and dislikes, goals in life, stressors, and just an overall curiosity about who they are at their core will strengthen the relationship.
Building love maps with one another allows for a couple to weather storms and create a solid foundation for their relationship. Love maps can help couples cope better during stressful times and during conflict.
When life ebbs and flows, couples who truly know one another, understand each others thoughts and feelings and are less impacted by sudden changes or stressors in one another’s lives.
Knowledge is the eye of desire and can become the pilot of the soul—Will Durant
Gottman’s Building Love Maps Exercise Questions
1. What was your partner wearing when you first met?
2. What are your partners hobbies?
3. What are your partners worst fears in life?
4. What personal improvements does your partner want to make in their life?
5. What is one of your partner’s favorite ways to be soothed?
6. What is your partner’s favorite movie?
7. What is your partner’s favorite holiday?
8. What is one of your partner’s current concerns or worries?
9. What is your partner’s favorite animal?
10. What is your partner’s most embarrassing moment?
Check out this link for the entire list of building love maps questions;
https://newpathcentre.ca/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/build-love-maps-love-map-exercise.pdf
The Science of Love and Building Love Maps
Building love maps is a concept created by relationship experts Dr. John and Julie Gottman. Building love maps is an exercise to help partners understand one another better and strengthen their relationship during the process. Love maps center on communication, curiosity, vulnerability, and trust within a relationship. Love maps are created when partners share information with one another as well as their thoughts and feelings to learn more about ones life story and understand each other on a deeper level.
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